Do You Want To Be Right or Do You Want To Be in Relationship

Relationships are tough, whether it's friends, family, romantic, or work relationships.  

They all take work.  They all take effort.  They all take intentionality.  They all will be challenged.

How much easier would it be if each person in the relationship owned their own stuff

and cared ultimately more about the relationship than being right?


When you've done something wrong or hurt someone, admit it and apologize.  

No one has ever choked to death from swallowing their own pride  -unknown


Is Our Way of Thinking Our Hidden Addiction?

We are all spiritually powerless...and not just those physically addicted to a substance...anyone that is addicted to a substance simply has their powerlessness visible for all to see.  

The rest of us disguise it in different ways and overcompensate for our more hidden and subtle addiction and attachments, especially our addiction to our way of thinking. 

We all take our own pattern of thinking as normative, logical, and surely true, even when it does not fully compute. 

We keep doing the same thing over and over again, even if it is not working for us....We think we are "our thinking" and we even take that thinking as utterly "true", which removes us at least two steps from reality itself....

It seems humans would sooner die than change or admit that they are mistaken....That is how far the ego will go to promote or protect itself.  

It would sooner die than change or admit that it is mistaken.  It would sooner live in a win/lose world in which most lose, rather than allow God any win-win victory.  

Grace is always a humiliation for the ego.....

-Richard Rohr






What is Yours

Tackle it

Head on


Until we truly know where we are, we can't change where we're going

Knowledge vs. Wisdom

Knowledge and Wisdom are Very Different


Knowledge is information or facts pertaining to a topic or experience. 

Wisdom is the discernment of what to do with the knowledge you have gained.

Knowledge is easily obtained by anyone.

Wisdom is only gained from a posture of humility.  

Wisdom comes from combining knowledge with discernment

that comes from feedback and input from trusted others.  

In order to gain wisdom, one must be open to the possibility

that they are missing something that others may see

and then be willing to accept the feedback. 


Which one is most valuable to you?

Wisdom > Knowledge

"Get all the advice and instruction you can, so you will be wise the rest of your life."

-Proverbs 19:20 (NLT)

Are We Aware?

Our thoughts, words, actions, and lack thereof, affect others.  

We do not live in a vacuum.  

Are we aware of how we are making others feel?  

Are we aware of how others are affected by us?  

Are we aware of anything outside of ourselves?

I want to be keenly aware of areas of my life where I may be hurting others. 

I want to welcome feedback from others when I have hurt them or disappointed them.

I want to be others-centered and not self-centered.

I want to be humble and have a servants heart.


I can WANT to be a lot of things, but I have to actually CHOOSE to be these things.

How about you?


I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,

but people will never forget how you made them feel.    

-Maya Angelou


If We're Honest

Rather than sharing my own personal thoughts today,

I wanted to share the lyrics to a song by Francesca Battistelli.

The words are raw, vulnerable, powerful, and truthful.  

I believe these lyrics describe what each of us really wants to express,

and yet for a myriad of reasons, we don't. 

I hope you enjoy and have a fabulous week!


If We're Honest

Truth is harder than a lie

The dark seems safer than the light

And everyone has a heart that loves to hide

I'm a mess and so are you

We've built walls nobody can get through

Yeah, it may be hard, but the best thing we could ever do, ever do

Bring your brokenness, and I'll bring mine

'Cause love can heal what hurt divides

And mercy's waiting on the other side

If we're honest

If we're honest

Don't pretend to be something that you're not

Living life afraid of getting caught

There is freedom found when we lay

our secrets down at the cross, at the cross

It would change our lives

It would set us free

It's what we need to be

-Francesca Battistelli

Word of the Week ·Listening·



the act of mindfully and actively hearing words shared by another

with the intention and desire to understand them


Is Investing in Counseling a Luxury or a Necessity?

In thinking about April being Counseling Awareness Month, I wonder......

With all of the money that we are willing to spend on our outward physical appearance, 

why are people not willing to spend money on their internal emotional needs?  

Between membership fees to yoga studios and gyms, pricey workout gear

(yes, I am guilty of this one for sure) hair, nails, makeup, facials, tanning, clothing, jewelry,

and many other expenses, think of the money that is spent to make present our

outward appearance as close to perfect as we can.  

So then, why do people hesitate to spend money on counseling or therapy?  

How can counseling or therapy be a "luxury item" but manicures and pedicures are "necessities"? 

Perhaps if we invested in our internal emotional needs with the same priority

we invest in our external physical appearance,

we might actually find true healing, emotional peace, and genuine acceptance our ourselves.

Truth...the Only Path to True Freedom

Jesus says that the truth sets us free (John 8:32, NLT)

 Truth produces transparency, peace, and rest. Lies produce deception, anxiety, and unrest,

Identify the lies you believe and begin to seek truth and act accordingly.  

When you do, you will learn new ways of being, and in turn, produce a different kind of life.  

This is hard work. It is not easy.   

 Allow God's spirit to lead you into truth and find some trusted friends that can help you.

Learn the truth about yourself, truth about others, and most importantly...the truth about Him.

Privacy vs. Secrecy

In relationships, there's a huge difference between privacy and secrecy.  

Privacy is protective, secrecy is destructive.


Information Does Not Equal Transformation

Change does not happen solely by the acquiring of information.  

Action has to be joined with the information for transformation and change to occur.  

Information ≠ Transformation

Remember the Meaning of Easter

New beginnings today because He lives.  

Don't forget the power of the Resurrection...

it doesn't end or weaken because Easter is over. 


What is Your First Step?

You don't have to see the whole staircase.

You just need to take the first step.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.


What is Your First Step?

You don't have to see the whole staircase.

You just need to take the first step.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.